Hello People,
Please forgive my absence, I had to attend a funeral out of town. Death always makes you take a step back from your life and the people in it and just simply BE. BE grateful. BE present. BE human.
I have a dear college friend; he is my amigo, my comrade, my brother and has been for the last 22 years! Amigo was always the guy that hmmm.... lets just say didn't want to commit. It eventually happened, he met the one. The one that changed it all and he gladly committed. He proposed and in the process of planning their 2012 wedding, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. My amigo was her champion and took care of her and loved her through it all. A year later, May of this year they got married. It was a glorious day full of love and gratefulness and more love. They were happy and peaceful and grateful. Sadly, upon return from their honeymoon, they found that her cancer returned with a vengeance. She died just shy of their two month wedding anniversary.
All I could think about was how is my amigo going to come back from this? How will he keep his heart open after this tragedy? How can he live his life without the person he planned to live it with?
Yesterday he said two things to me that touched my soul. "She taught me how to love." and "She adored me, it felt good to be loved like that." Those two sentences took my breath away. My dear friend had transformed before my eyes. I am so proud of the man he became, of the husband he was to her. He is better for her time in his life and she was better for his time in hers.
I am proud of my boy. My heart breaks for him, I cry sporadically during the day for the sadness but also for the beauty she left in this man. It will take a long time for him to feel ok enough but I know that it is only possible because of her.
I share this story to say please do monthly self-check breast exams and if you are of age to get a mammogram....get it. Life is truly precious and we only have one go at it...make it your best.
Until next time.
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